The hidden issue of men and grieving

When dealing with grief, men are often left with a sense of isolation and loneliness and struggle to find the same social support system as women.

The way women process grief is different to men. They frequently have wider social networks, and find it easier to naturally connect with others. This can provide the support they need.

Men often face very different burdens and pressures. They may choose not to deal with their grief and hide it or suppress it. Increasing numbers of men need support and to connect with others who have been bereaved. That’s why HammondCare has recently launched a series of bereavement support groups specifically designed for men.

Some of the issues men who are experiencing spousal bereavement deal with include:

• No longer socialising because their wife managed their social life
• Having a need to talk to someone but finding it hard to do so
• Experiencing greater isolation and loneliness

The way the bereavement support groups work is in both a therapeutic and a practical sense. The attendees become a connected group who journey together over time and discuss different topics.

An expert therapist and counsellor guides the group discussion. Friendships naturally grow out of these groups as members begin to take on the role of mentor to others and support one another.